Last week, I talked about how the relationship with your hair stylist can often mirror the relationship with your significant other. You need honesty, communication and trust in order for both relationships to be successful. But what if it doesn’t work out the way you planned? How can you end that relationship tactfully and painlessly? That may not be the easiest thing to do, especially if you end up seeing someone else right down the street or even in the same beauty shop or salon!
Well first of all, treat it just like you would any other break up. Have a conversation. Explain that you want to talk….and schedule sometime in between his or her appointments or at the beginning or end of the day. If possible, do it privately and not in front of everyone else in the shop. Spare him or her the embarrassment.
Secondly, .Be up front, honest and direct. State that you will be moving on to someone else and that you wanted to be the first person to let him or her know. If you feel comfortable, you can even explain why the relationship is no longer working for you. If it makes it a little easier, use the old tried and true favorite line: “It’s not you, It’s me. I am the one who’s changed”. LOL
Finally, Be nice and end things on a good note. Write a thank you not for his or her years of service. Maybe (if you feel like really being nice), send your stylist a nice bouquet of flowers to show your appreciation. The last thing you want to do is burn bridges. Who knows, you may need your stylist for a hair emergency in the future. It’s always good to have a back up list!
So, you’ve found a new hair stylist and you are headed to your first hair appointment. Lots of emotions and questions are probably swirling through your head right now. Will he or she chop off all your hair? Will you come out looking like something straight from a 1980’s teeny bop flick? Will your hair color look white instead of blond? Well, have you done your homework yet? Have you done the necessary due diligence beforehand to find out the necessary information? Here are some key questions and clues you should look for in your new hair stylist:
Most importantly, what does your stylist’s hair look like? This is CLUE #1! Does he or she take time and care in their appearance? If they care what they look like, more than likely they will care what YOU look like.
How long has the hair stylist in question been doing hair? I like to think anything over three or five years would be a safe bet.
Do they ask questions about what’s important to you? Are they concerned about hair care or just getting you out the door as quickly as possible?
Is their shop clean and organized? Is their waiting area full?
What is his/her chairside manner? Do your personalities click? Do they seem patient or tired and overworked?
Although this is not an exhaustive list, this will at least get you started in the right direction.
Looking for the right hairstylist is a lot like looking for the right partner. You need trust, commitment and EXCELLENT communication. You all know what it feels like to leave your hair salon feeling less than satisfied with your service. You feel let down, disappointed, lied to and in some cases, betrayed.
If you are like me, you need an arsenal of “stand-bys” for your beauty care needs. Before I launched BusyBellas, I had a list of hair stylists in several cities across the United States. You never know when you have a “hair emergency”, you know? The way that I started gathering these names is simply by asking people on the street, in the grocery store, on line, etc, the question: Who does your hair?. Most of the time, people would be so flattered they were more than willing to give me names, address and full contact information of their hair stylists. So, I will offer you the same type of advice in your search. Whether you are in a new city or simply looking to change to a new hair stylist, follow these simple suggestions to finding great referrals. Happy Hunting!
Ask a stranger. If you see a woman with gorgeous, healthy hair, or in a style you like, don’t be afraid to simply stop and ask her to share her resources. More often than not, people will be more than willing to give up their references. Most will be very flattered.
Do a little Social Networking. Submit a post to Twitter or Facebook asking people for great references in your desired city.
Do your research. Just because you visit a salon for the first time, doesn’t mean you have to commit to an appointment. Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask about levels of expertise or experience in addressing your specific hair care needs. Also, ask about their policy for dissatisfied customers. It’s better to find out now, then later when it could be too late!
Welcome to BusyBellas!
Bella \b(el)-la\ as a girl’s name is pronounced BELL-ah. It is of Italian and Latin origin, and the meaning of Bella is “beautiful“. Also a short form of Isabel or Isabella (Hebrew) meaning “God‘s promise“.
Are you an active, career woman with limited free time and a non-existent social life ?or
A busy stay-at-home or working mom who’s lost touch with her circle of friends?
A single, independent mother living on a tight budget?
If any these descriptions sound like you, then you are a BusyBella! Here, on my blog, you will find the resources, answers and insight you need to help you look and feel good. The Mission of Busybellas is to offer a one stop review and referral resource for women of all ethnicities and ages who want to protect the money, time and energy it takes to be their beautiful best. Busybellas will focus on the specific wants and needs of the consumer. The beauty industry has the incredible power to change the way women look and feel about themselves. Therefore, women can’t afford to take any chances when it comes to choosing the right person or business to address their specific beauty care needs.
This is where BusyBellas comes in. Here, you will find informative articles and inside information on such things as what to look for in a hair stylist, aesthetician or dermatologist. Other entries will include tips on finding the best massage therapist, the truth behind laser treatments for acne prone skin and wrinkles and those UV lamps at the nail salon. As both a beauty consumer and a sales professional in the medical field, I have a vast amount of experience, through trial and error and research, that will provide you with the tools and information necessary to help you make an informed decision. Your comments and discussions on upcoming articles are welcomed and encouraged. Thank your for visiting BusyBellas…this is only the beginning of many great things to come!